We enjoyed this first Thanksgiving a married couple with Jay’s family. As we toasted to family, our thoughts were also with our family members who have passed away. Hope this holiday found you well and surrounded by love.
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Today I visited my old office at Coconino Community Services. This was my first real job, in terms of being a full time employee. I loved it there and was pretty upset when the recession started in 2008 and I fell into the trap of last hired, first let go. Luckily my new job has me back in Flagstaff, working with my old office as a community partner. It feels like I am right where I should be and that the crazy route that got me here somehow makes sense. When I visited today, Sherri reminded me that when I left 4 years ago, I gave her my bamboo plant. Sherri has nurtured that plant and now it reaches above the window frame! It feels like a symbol of the growth that I have undergone in the last 4 years.
We are amazed at how quickly Elsa seems to have adjusted to her new home. Cats generally done like change, but Elsa seemed to recognize some furniture and quickly realize that she had finally come home. This picture is of Elsa in her new favorite nap spot, hiding under the mattress pad on the guest bed.
Going back home after our wedding really felt like going home this time because we were bringing our cat, Elsa with us. It has been a year and a half since we last cuddled on the couch as a family. During that time we were lucky enough to have my Aunt Janet and my parents take good care of our kitty. Elsa has actually survived two cross country road trips already (from VA to AZ and back). She is resilient and enjoys being in the car, but hates hotels. This time we wanted to try something faster, hoping airline travel might be easier on all of us. Although it was a long day and a bit traumatizing for Elsa, we made it safely to Flagstaff. Elsa seemed very relieved to be in the house, which she quickly figured out was her new home.
As the storm made landfall and the rain and wind whipped around outside, we celebrated this new phase of life with a special brew, the Pelican Pub & Brewery’s Bridal Ale. This bottle was given to us by Jay’s parents’ friends, Pat and Cindy Kennedy. The beer is named Bridal Ale because it was originally created to celebrate the marriage of two Pelican Pub staff. Pat and Cindy picked it up while they were traveling in Oregon and hand carried it back to their home in Oregon. It made it all the way to Virginia with them in their carry on. Getting married of course gives you the opportunity to closely examine all of the reasons why you love your partner and want to spend the rest of your life committed to them. What I did not fully realize was how much your wedding also makes you look closely at the relationships you have with your family and friends and come to value them and appreciate their support.
Oh, and the beer was fabulous – I would highly recommend it!
Starting in the middle of October I had been tracking the weather report for our wedding day. The weather on the days leading up to our wedding had dropped from a high of 80 degrees on Wednesday with 0% chance of precipitation, to a high of 61 degrees on Saturday with a 20% chance of precipitation. I got the sense that the weather was changing, but I hadn’t bothered to look beyond the 27th. Not until Friday that is. At that point I started hearing about Hurricane Sandy and how it was headed our way. Sunday morning after the wedding, Sandy was picking up strength and headed straight for us expected to hit on Monday. School was canceled on Monday and Tuesday. The metro system decided to preemptively close for the first time anyone could remember. The storm was expected to be epic but no one knew what kind of damage we could expect.
Jay and I were wondering whether or not to call off our honeymoon in Harpers Ferry. Harpers Ferry is 90 minutes west of northern Virginia and they were supposed to be sheltered from the brunt of the storm. We headed out there on Sunday, driving on almost deserted roads with no rain or wind. We arrived at a historic row house, built in 1839 with 2 foot thick stone walls. As the owner said, “the first pig built with straw, the second used sticks, and the third pig built with brick. The fourth pig didn’t make it into the story because he didn’t want to brag, but he built with stone”. The Stonehouse B&B was a great place to weather the storm.
Looking at this photo fills me with joy. Already feeling grateful for having found Jay and for his love and patience, I was overwhelmed by gratitude by all of the love and support we received from our family and friends. We chose to have a wedding instead of eloping in order to share this important moment in our lives. We wanted to introduce people who knew Jay when he was just a baby to people who knew me when I was just a baby. In that moment, on our wedding day, they all share a connection and it was humbling to bring them all together. Here we take our first steps into our future as a married couple with the full support of our family and friends behind us. Wow.